tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post1998121926299429327..comments2023-12-26T06:39:59.775-05:00Comments on A Lovely Life, Indeed: ForgivenessKelly Rodriguezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-59432098756316405062014-06-10T10:14:15.973-04:002014-06-10T10:14:15.973-04:00Thank you so much for the opportunity to link up. ...Thank you so much for the opportunity to link up. :-)Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-67133161744289041702014-05-29T05:29:39.074-04:002014-05-29T05:29:39.074-04:00Peggy, you're so right. It comes down to respe...Peggy, you're so right. It comes down to respect. From respect grows kindness, tolerance and sincerity. As a middle school teacher, I see the bullying resurface daily. The bully usually is wounded herself (sadly, in most cases) or himself, but it doesn't make it easier for the target, because you're right...in addition to the mental anguish that accompanies the bullying, some lose joy for activities or places they once considered safe. <br /><br />It sounds like you were taught well and passed it on, and your children will as well. :-) Thank you so much for sharing your story. Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-29972106207534770542014-05-29T05:24:36.921-04:002014-05-29T05:24:36.921-04:00Thank you, Kerry. It is important to teach kids to...Thank you, Kerry. It is important to teach kids to speak up if they see something, but it doesn't always mean speaking up to the bully. Sometimes, it means telling someone with the power to stop it. She's doing a great job. :-) Thanks, again. I am too. Life gets better. Have a great weekend!Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-62300861176658272802014-05-29T05:23:17.470-04:002014-05-29T05:23:17.470-04:00Thank you, Ali. :-)Thank you, Ali. :-)Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-9573272348734298712014-05-29T05:23:04.527-04:002014-05-29T05:23:04.527-04:00Thank you! It is important to teach kids to speak ...Thank you! It is important to teach kids to speak up if they see something, but it doesn't always mean speaking up to the bully. Sometimes, it means telling someone with the power to stop it. I'm so glad you found your voice as well. :-) Thanks, again. Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-37073881765395557892014-05-29T05:20:51.403-04:002014-05-29T05:20:51.403-04:00Thank you, Susan. College was a lifesaver in so ma...Thank you, Susan. College was a lifesaver in so many ways. Thank you for your kind support. :-)Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-83503889065747465582014-05-29T05:20:11.992-04:002014-05-29T05:20:11.992-04:00Thank you, Lara. She's doing a great thing. It...Thank you, Lara. She's doing a great thing. It is important to teach kids to speak up if they see something, but that doesn't always mean speaking up to the bully. Sometimes, it means telling someone with the power to stop it. Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-2672732404476375312014-05-29T05:19:13.478-04:002014-05-29T05:19:13.478-04:00Thank you, Linda. :-)Thank you, Linda. :-)Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-61678545287701523112014-05-29T05:19:02.872-04:002014-05-29T05:19:02.872-04:00Thank you so much for your comments. It is importa...Thank you so much for your comments. It is important to teach kids to speak up if they see something, but it doesn't always mean spacing up to the bully. Sometimes, it means telling someone with the power to stop it. And I agree, teaching kids to fight for themselves is key. I was not that kid...I did not have those skills. I wish I did. I do now. :-) Thanks again. Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-60739346668163825642014-05-29T05:16:33.718-04:002014-05-29T05:16:33.718-04:00Thank you, Suheiry. Your pastor hit the nail on th...Thank you, Suheiry. Your pastor hit the nail on the head. So many people associate forgiveness with forgetting and it's not always that simple. I was really happy that she reached out as well. Thanks, again. Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-46647290110217490262014-05-29T05:15:18.325-04:002014-05-29T05:15:18.325-04:00Thank you, Kimberly. :-)Thank you, Kimberly. :-)Kelly Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04424296190091205312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-58672100752041374492014-05-27T14:52:00.492-04:002014-05-27T14:52:00.492-04:005 attractive, fit, athletic, and pretty much well-...5 attractive, fit, athletic, and pretty much well-liked kids in my family, and no one, no one, ever sought to hurt another. If it were ever done by accident, it was followed by sincere apology. My parents, the best thing they ever did was to never permit speaking ill of others in the household, or the dinner table, and if it came up there was a looooong walk a mile in my shoes discussion. It was all about respect. This holds true with my siblings today and it is what I am most proud of them, their sincerity, kindness, and tolerance. <br /><br />On the other hand, today, raising an athlete in this day and age, there are many ill behaved parents, fostering ill behaved children on fields, ugly experiences. The good part is only the best make it to play in college, and each of those players is the best from their respective parts, equaling it out. And yes, I am gradually making peace with some of those parents whom though I nor my daughter have ever had words, but whose actions took the joy and fun out of experiences and caused anxiety. Just FYI: 99.9 percent of the worst behaved really never even make it to college play. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02202370066304771978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-49134005130115092352014-05-27T06:31:55.927-04:002014-05-27T06:31:55.927-04:00That was really kind of her to reach out and to te...That was really kind of her to reach out and to teach her children to be different. Sorry that you were bullied. It is not for them that you forgive but for yourself. Glad you were able to find your voice. Kerry @ Till Then Smile Oftenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15665402939137040730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-76775607755636249712014-05-26T08:34:31.757-04:002014-05-26T08:34:31.757-04:00Lovely post Kelly. Thanks for sharing :)Lovely post Kelly. Thanks for sharing :)Ali Williamshttp://glutenfreehomebakery.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-69914622728639445562014-05-26T00:30:20.540-04:002014-05-26T00:30:20.540-04:00Fantastic viewpoint!!! I have tried to teach my ch...Fantastic viewpoint!!! I have tried to teach my children not to be bystanders either. I was never a bystander though. I can think of atleast two occassions where I got in trouble for involving myself to take up for someone else. I had a lot of issues at home though. I never really came into myself until I turned 30. Before that I felt awkward and like people my age just didn't get me. I felt totally out of place. Even though I took up for those being bullied I didn't connect with many people in school. My Dad passed away when I was in High School and before that I had dealt with a lot of "adult" issues. So I always felt older than I really was. So I completely get what you mean. I am so glad that I finally understand who I am.My Captivating Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10546389739769193734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-11649949501184252892014-05-25T23:33:02.756-04:002014-05-25T23:33:02.756-04:00 I am so glad college worked out for you the way t... I am so glad college worked out for you the way that it did. Thank you for sharing these beautiful thoughts.Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/15294204009310379754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-39918187467121296962014-05-25T15:43:43.730-04:002014-05-25T15:43:43.730-04:00This is beautiful. What a wonderful message to rec...This is beautiful. What a wonderful message to receive from someone, and what a wonderful thing that she is remedying things by teaching the next generation to be better.Lara Neveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08351324888724799014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-58843276096681168812014-05-25T13:00:16.176-04:002014-05-25T13:00:16.176-04:00Lots of truth here. God bless. LindaLots of truth here. God bless. LindaCrafts a la Modehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01199579251118328688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-53458196306684882232014-05-25T12:11:49.366-04:002014-05-25T12:11:49.366-04:00I wrote a post on my blog about forgiveness recent...I wrote a post on my blog about forgiveness recently titled "Forgiveness is the F Word." In general, I think forgiveness is an overused word that the mean use to prey on the victims. With high school classmates though, it is a little different - especially if the person wasn't actually the bully. I think it takes guts and class to forgive people who are bullies. It's good and kind to forgive friends who stood by and did nothing.<br /><br />As for not raising a bystander, I am going to teach my kids not to stand by if their friends are bullied. I will not encourage them to do anything if people they don't know so well are bullied. I don't want my child to get beat up or become a social pariah to defend a kid they don't even know. Plus, I think bullied kids need to be taught to fight for themselves - something else I will teach my kids. Poet, Detachment Mom, and Navy Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15358814782852004896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-36442529278571020192014-05-25T10:29:15.573-04:002014-05-25T10:29:15.573-04:00One of our pastors did a sermon on forgiveness a f...One of our pastors did a sermon on forgiveness a few months ago. He said that forgiving someone doesn't mean you forget. That's unrealistic and impossible. But you have to be willing not to keep bringing it up. And sometimes you'll have to forgive that person over and over, because the hurt and anger may return. It was such an encouragement for me to hear that. <br /><br />I'm sorry for what you went through, but I'm so happy that woman reached out to you. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15626700967978665487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8678450334416953397.post-37154481461082690252014-05-25T10:16:24.616-04:002014-05-25T10:16:24.616-04:00It's good to hear that you got that message, a...It's good to hear that you got that message, and she is raising her kids to not be bystanders. Great post!Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16182099216671528652noreply@blogger.com