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Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Travel Tips for Couples

It was a match made in heaven for my husband and me when we discovered that we were both blissfully afflicted with wanderlust. Our case is so severe that we need a fix at least once a week, even to travel to a new destination for our weekly Sunday afternoon coffee date.
Canoodling aside, travel is a big part of our lives, and we're hoping to travel full time as soon as possible. For some like us, the idea of traveling around the world with a partner 24/7 is bliss, but for others, cramped quarters and too much togetherness bring anxiety that could derail even a week's vacation. 

Here's how we do it. 



1. Obviously, shared interests are fabulous, but celebrate your differences. You're a beach girl. He's a mountain man. Or vice versa. No worries. Do some research and find locales that allow you to do both. Compromise.

2. Plan together. This is how you can be sure that both of you have the opportunity to have your needs and wants met. Discuss expectations about budget, activities and accommodations. Both of you will be emotionally invested and excited for all that awaits you. 

3. Travel light. No one wants to feel like a pack mule. Organize your stuff and then take out at least 10%. Don't pack for What if?. If you need it enough to carry it on your back for x hours or days, then keep it; otherwise keep pruning until you are happy and won't lament carrying your load...on your own...for the duration of the trip.

4. Don't sweat the small stuff. When you're together all the time, or at least when you're traveling together, your partner's habits may start to creep up on you when you're tired, frustrated, or hangry. Recognize that your frustration is really about you and your reaction; you control it. Is it worth it to alienate your partner? Doubtful. Don't take him or her into your world of crazy, because then, you'll have two problems. There's little that a snack, a nap, or a good belly laugh can't fix. And then kiss and make-up. 

5. Share the load. Are you driving? Offer to drive and give him or her a break to snooze, catch up on email or social media or to just look out the window. He or she will appreciate the break and your willingness to share the load.

6. Don't feel like you have to talk all the time. Share space and be confident in your quiet time to think, meditate, wonder at what you see and play with naughty thoughts to make your stay-over that much more fun.

7. Plan ahead. Pack a snack. Pack water. Pack tissues. Pack medicine for a pop-up headache. Pack antacids. It's better to be prepared. I eat every 3-4 hours, but my husband could eat once or twice a day. Know thyself, and I do, so I pack a protein bar. Then, I'm good to go and a much happier camper. 

8. Alone time is okay. Do you want to go for a run? An early morning dip in the pool? If one of you wants to do something in which the other simply has no interest, don't worry. Sometimes the time apart is the remedy for when you're getting on each other's nerves or it saves the other from resenting having to do something or go somewhere he or she really doesn't want to do or go. Plus, absence really does make the heart grow fonder. You can meet up later and share your experience. 

9. Don't be afraid to start small. Maybe a round-the-world trip is not your cup of tea. Start by playing tourist in your own town. Or travel to the closest biggest city. The first big date my husband and I had was to New York. We went for the day and it was magic. Central Park, the Met, tapas and sangria...how can you go wrong?

10. Make it a date. Hold hands. Kiss. Take goofy photos. Picnic. Play. You love each other; make loving memories to hold dear when you're not able to travel as much. 

Whether it's a weekend getaway, a day trip to the city, an afternoon at the museum, traveling around the world, or even a Sunday afternoon coffee date, travel with the one you love is an amazing experience. You connect in a way that may go unchecked in the craziness of chaotic days. Take a chance and see the world. And be sure to kiss all along the way. 





14 comments:

  1. Fun post Kelly! Lots of fun, practical, and creative ideas!

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  2. These are great tips that I'll share through social media. My husband and I learned (after several disasterous vacations) that we don't travel well together. So we travel separately. This saves us money because we don't have to kennel the dog! But I know that other will love these tips. Thanks for gathering them here.

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    1. Thank you, Karen. I have a friend in a similar situation and it's a win-win, as you explained. It makes for a happier experience while you're away and a fun way to relive the experience when you return and share it with your partner. Thank you for stopping by. :-)

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  3. I miss having someone to travel with since my husband died. This year I'm going to Italy with a group of women I don't know, but I'm excited for the adventure and meeting new people. My life's always been traveling and living on the edge so I never thought I'd be on an "all women of a certain age trip!." Brenda

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    1. I'm so sorry for your loss, Brenda. I can't begin to imagine. Cheers to you for moving forward and embracing the next stage of your journey with bravery and grace. I hope you have a wonderful trip! I look forward to reading about it and seeing the photos.

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  4. Love these tips! One of the unexpected benefits of empty-nest traveling was discovering we no longer had to travel during school vacations. I love fall and spring travel ... fewer tourists and less unbearable heat or cold!

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    1. It's such a luxury, isn't it? We prefer shoulder season travel as well. Thank you for stopping by, Barbara.

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  5. Awe what a great post with great tips! I'm lucky that I found someone that loves to travel as much as I do (he's even a travel agent!) #wanderfulwednesday

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  6. Such useful tips! I love the idea of going somewhere new for coffee every week - I'm going to try that. I was listening to The Minimalists podcast (so good!) this week on Travel and it had some ace tips, especially for packing. Like you, they said no what if items and also to pack as if you're going for no longer than a week. I am the world's worst packer, another reason why I love travelling with my hubby is that he packs my case and lets me use some of his case space when I run out!

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  7. This is so sweet, and just so true! :) Travelling with a partner is the best as you get to add so many memories to your bank with them :)

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  8. These are great tips - particularly giving each other space to do your own activities! Having the space is nice, and dragging someone on something they just don't want to do doesn't make it fun for anyone!

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  9. You're right, it's SO important not to stress and start arguing about unimportant stuff. It can be quite exhausting to share little space for a long period of time so wandering off alone can be quite helpful every now and then and of course, remembering to enjoy the time and create memories together too :)

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  10. These are perfect tips specially for couples who wish to travel after getting married and wants to enjoy traveling together.

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