I suspect the latter.
I am an introvert, which is strange, because if you knew me in real life, and some of you do, you might say I am an outgoing, gregarious person. And that's true too. But it does not come naturally.
Recently, I read an article that asserted that there are four types of introverts: social, thinking, anxious, and restrained. I suspect that most introverts are a combination of the four, but if you identify as an introvert, take the quiz and see for yourself.
I have come to embrace my introverted self because I finally understand her, and I suspect these five realizations are universal truths for many introverts.
2. When I was younger, I had a large circle of friends and an even larger circle of acquaintances. Now both circles are smaller, but tighter, and that suits me so much better. I feel like I can build deeper relationships with people as I really get to know them. And oddly, or not, many of my friends are extroverts. Yin and yan, I think.
3. Whether it is Attention Deficit Disorder, anxiety, introversion, or a combination of the three, over stimulation results in a processing nightmare. The person's voice with whom I am speaking becomes mottled in a Charlie Brown-ish teacher quality. My eyes dart around as I react to sound and image changes. It's not that I don't want to pay attention. It seems like I can't. I thrive on one-to-one and smaller group communication, where one person speaks at a time. It's not the real world in many cases, but for me, it's what works best.
4. I don't mind public speaking, but I am anxious if I have to make small talk.
5. I am hyper sensitive across all senses. This does not always manifest in a negative reaction, but it is something I have noticed and, as a result, I have accommodated my sensitivity in the way I cook and eat, dress, and interact with the world around me.
Realizing that I am an introvert after all of these years has been a pleasant eye opener. I give myself time to take everything in and I recognize that, like language, everyone processes stimulation at different speeds. I can recognize when my energy is depleting and I am confident enough in myself to be able to recharge so I can enjoy more of what life has to offer.
Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Do you know any introverts? How do you handle their quirks?