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Saturday, April 26, 2014

Fired Up: 10 ways to heat up your marriage TODAY

I love my husband and I love being his wife. Our marriage is sacred and something I never want to take for granted. I see couples who struggle and I am continually reminded of how lucky and blessed we are 



Being a good wife and partner is important to me. I want the magic we feel now to sustain us throughout our life together. Living in magic is a good place to be

If you are looking for ways to fire up your marriage, here are 10 ways that could fan those flames or even, reignite a spark.

1. Be intimate.
Physical intimacy is an integral part of a healthy marriage. You have to physically connect as well as emotionally connect. Intimacy in a marriage is like food for her body...if you don't feed it, eventually it is going to die. 

And don't be afraid to try new things. There's an element of intrigue when you shake up the routine. And in a healthy marriage, it's safe to try those things. Go for it...and have fun!

2. Thinking of You
Put a note in his lunch bag. Or in his pocket. Send him a text. Let him know you're thinking of him. Be playful, or naughty. Either way, it's a win-win.



3. Watch your wedding video or look through your wedding photos.
Remember how happy and in love you were that day. Relive it.




4. Make a play list of songs that are special to you or that put you in the mood for romance.
Start with your first dance song from your wedding. 




5. Hold hands.


6. Do something for you.
Sometimes, the demands of our day leave us feeling like there is no time to breathe. Find time for you. Go for a walk. Eat well. Spend time with friends. Love yourself and you can love others.




7. Take the opportunity to cuddle up whenever possible. 
Again, physical contact is important. How can you feel connected to someone you don't physically touch? Spoon. Join at the feet. Hold hands. Cuddle into his nook. 




8. Disconnected dinner date
Dinner time is cherished time at our house. It's a time for reconnection after our day apart. Have dinner together. No phones. No tv. Just conversation and reconnection.


9. Plan a date night. 
Not sure where to start? Start here. 


10. It's the thoughts that count.
Think of him with love and gratitude. Send him loving energy. Pray for him...for you...for your marriage in whatever shape your prayer takes. 


With half of all marriages ending in divorce, there has to be something missing. Every day will not have rainbows and unicorns, but when both parties are committed, those days oozing love will outnumber any days without. 

How do you keep the spark aflame in your marriage?


18 comments:

  1. I love this, Kelly. Little things like holding hands make such a different when it comes to feeling close to my husband. It's nice going out to dinner not just because it's a night out/no cooking, but it reminds us to sit across from each other, no distractions like computers or TV shows.
    Thank you for posting this!

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    1. Thank you, Christy. I agree. Romance is about the little things. It's in those moments when I feel most connected. Love that precious time. <3 Thanks again!

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  2. I love this... we do this for the most part, are now trying to institute a regular date on Fridays to celebrate ending the workweek. Good ideas!

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    1. Thanks, Farin! Love date night. It's so important. Life can be overwhelming. Date night is a wonderful way to reconnect...at home or out somewhere. Thanks again!

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  3. Great post! I can't believe I haven't seen your blog before as it's really good. Will defiantly come back again and follow you.

    Beth x
    www.TheBritishGirl.co.uk

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    1. Thanks, Beth! Welcome. :-) I am thrilled that you found me. Please come back and visit again soon. Off to explore The British Girl. Cheers! :-)

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  4. Great ideas! Thanks for sharing! You two look very happy!

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    1. Thank you, Jen! We are. It's such a blessing. Thank you again, for visiting and for your comments. :-) Happy Sunday!

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  5. This is fantastic! I needed this list, thank you!

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    1. Thanks, Jessica! I'm so glad to hear it was helpful. :-)

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  6. We rewatch our wedding video every anniversary. Its a definite highlight!

    Something I might add is we like to continue to dress up for each other. I think sometimes I get lazy and we don't put in the full effort when we are going to go out together (or are just around the house. You can't wear sweats every day...) Its important to me that I still try to look good for my husband and him for me. And it always makes it special when I know he is wearing that shirt because he knows its my favorite :)

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    1. Whitney, we watch our wedding video too. :-) You're so right about dressing up. It's fun to dress up...I love his reaction. :-) And it's true...when he wears a certain shirt, I react as well. Great point! Thanks so much for stopping by and for your comments. :-)

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  7. It's the little things - we both try to do little things daily for the other, and be conscious of the need for date nights and walks and just being together in the quiet.

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    1. Agreed, Steph. It's in the little things that the romance is big. It's organic. That's what makes it so special. :-)

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  8. I love this post. We do some of these hold hands and cuddle up on the couch, but we don't do so well with the dinner without distractions and that is going to change now with us being in our new home as there isn't a tv near the kitchen, but a radio to play music...love that. We do watch our wedding video on our anniversary and I will pull up photos on our computer of our early days of dating.

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    1. Thank you, J. It's the little things that make the memories. Congratulations on your new home. I love the music idea...Diana Krall on Pandora is our go-to. Or Sade. Very romantic. Thanks so much for your visit and comments. :-)

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  9. These are some great tips! They are all so important. I may have to convince my hubby to watch our wedding video this weekend :) Thanks for linking up!

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    1. Thank you, Charlene, for your comments and for the opportunity to link up! :-) Have a great day!

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